Gateway to Recovery
St. Louis, Missouri is known as the "Gateway to the West" as it was from this city that many settlers and adventurers launched into a challenging yet exciting future filled with abundant opportunities for betterment and freedom in the American West.
Similarly, we, the men and women of the St. Louis chapter of Sexaholics Anonymous, have found the 12-step program and fellowship of Sexaholics Anonymous to be the Gateway to Freedom from the cruel tyrant of sexaholism and lust addiction and an entry into the abundant and fruitful land we call Recovery.
Each of us has been afflicted by a profound and utter powerlessness over one or more sexual behaviors that threatened to destroy our sense of worth, our relationships, our careers, and for some of us, even our very lives. The disease of sexaholism is manifested in a variety of ways among our members. One has summarized it this way:
We became true addicts: sex with self, promiscuity, adultery, dependency relationships, and more fantasy. We got it through the eyes; we bought it, we sold it, we traded it, we gave it away.
But we have discovered a solution to our powerlessness and to our destructive choices! If you too have despaired of ever being free, we would love to share with you our experience, strength, and hope. Freedom and a supportive fellowship are within your reach. Come join us!
Long to be happy, joyous, and free?
Your Next Step
Please take some time to look around the site. If you identify with us and think you may share our problem, we’d like to share our solution with you. We have meetings every day , at various times and locations in St. Louis, MO, St. Charles, MO, Rolla, MO, and Caseyville, IL. Please call our hotline (314.995.2687) and leave a message and one of our volunteers will be in touch as quickly as possible.
I knew I had a problem but didn’t know what it was or what to do about it. Then one day I got shown the “cycle of addiction”: I do something I deeply regret; I feel pain and promise myself “never again”; at some point, however, the pain passes and I do the very thing Read more about Going Round In Circles[…]
According to some studies, misdiagnosis is one of the leading causes of death in the US. Think of it. If I have a cancerous tumor in my stomach, but my doctor thinks it’s likely just an ulcer, the prescribed treatment for my condition won’t come anywhere close to treating the cause of my pain. If Read more about A Misdiagnosed Illness[…]
Sobriety is a one-day-at-a-time endeavor. Sometimes a one-hour or minute endeavor. I make no promises for tomorrow or for the week or year. No grand vows (how many countless vows have I made in my career as an addict?!). Just a humble focus on today. All I have to work with is here and now. Read more about Sober, Just For Today[…]
I had sunk to a hopeless, desperate place in my addiction to pornography, masturbation and sex. Given that place of powerless despair, I was amazed to hear the confident promises held out to addicts like myself by SA and our forbearers in Alcoholics Anonymous. Here’s a sampling. As you read each one, close your eyes Read more about Momentum[…]
I found it difficult to concentrate on the member shares at a recent meeting. Most at my end of the table were distracted as well. There was a fly buzzing nosily around and each of us took our turn trying to put it out of our misery. But you never can catch or kill a Read more about How to Kill a Fly[…]
The step of making amends can stop us dead in our recovery tracks. It’s a difficult and risky thing to admit the harm we have done to those we have wronged. In some situations, there’s also the fact that those to whom we are making amends have often in turn harmed us. The harming may Read more about Righting Wrongs & Restoring Serenity[…]
A friend was telling me about the garden at his house. The house was owned for decades by a woman who poured her love into the gardens. He said that there is some biological imperative in the yard such that you can plant anything and it will grow. It reminded me of a short story Read more about Dying From Self-Inflicted Wounds[…]
In the SA 1st step, we admit powerlessness over lust (not a particular behavior), and the requirement for membership is a desire to “stop lusting and become sexually sober”. Both are in view with the understanding that lust lies beneath the acting out behaviors. I am like the alcoholic in many ways, but there is Read more about The First Drink[…]
In the Sexaholics Anonymous White Book (our equivalent of the AA Big Book) it says that “true sobriety includes progressive victory over lust.” (It’s not just about sex eh?) In an article in the December 1999 edition of the SA newsletter Essay, founder Roy K had an article entitled “A New Look at Lust Recovery”. In that Read more about Progressive Victory Over Lust[…]
The scene: A house on Family Avenue, Everytown, U.S.A. It is 1:30 in the morning, and the attractive young wife, barefoot, in her nightgown, and holding her one-year-old girl in her arms, has awakened and is looking for her husband. As she approaches the den, she looks into the darkened room through the door, which is slightly ajar. Read more about That Look[…]