Gateway to Recovery
St. Louis, Missouri is known as the "Gateway to the West" as it was from this city that many settlers and adventurers launched into a challenging yet exciting future filled with abundant opportunities for betterment and freedom in the American West.
Similarly, we, the men and women of the St. Louis chapter of Sexaholics Anonymous, have found the 12-step program and fellowship of Sexaholics Anonymous to be the Gateway to Freedom from the cruel tyrant of sexaholism and lust addiction and an entry into the abundant and fruitful land we call Recovery.
Each of us has been afflicted by a profound and utter powerlessness over one or more sexual behaviors that threatened to destroy our sense of worth, our relationships, our careers, and for some of us, even our very lives. The disease of sexaholism is manifested in a variety of ways among our members. One has summarized it this way:
We became true addicts: sex with self, promiscuity, adultery, dependency relationships, and more fantasy. We got it through the eyes; we bought it, we sold it, we traded it, we gave it away.
But we have discovered a solution to our powerlessness and to our destructive choices! If you too have despaired of ever being free, we would love to share with you our experience, strength, and hope. Freedom and a supportive fellowship are within your reach. Come join us!
Long to be happy, joyous, and free?
Your Next Step
Please take some time to look around the site. If you identify with us and think you may share our problem, we’d like to share our solution with you. We have meetings every day , at various times and locations in St. Louis, MO, St. Charles, MO, Rolla, MO, and Caseyville, IL. Please call our hotline (314.995.2687) and leave a message and one of our volunteers will be in touch as quickly as possible.
Fear plays a very active role in the destruction of the sex or porn addict. The prominent place of fear in an addicts life is often not evident when he or she first comes into Sexaholics Anonymous. That was certainly the case for me. Heck, I was only conscious of one problem when I first entered SA’s doors: masturbation and pornography. If I could only stop my sexual acting out, I told myself, the real, admirable me would be free to flourish. But I had misdiagnosed my problem. And my core problem included fear. And recovery from porn addiction has meant facing fear. Read more about Facing Fear In Sex Addiction Recovery
“Because he lives inside his attitudes, the individual doesn’t see them; he sees only the physical activity and thinks he’s feeling guilty for that.” (White Book, page 40) Reading this reflection at a recent meeting, lead me to consider what my attitudes had been and how my changing attitudes brought about through the 12 Steps have enabled me to overcome my porn addiction. Read more about New Attitudes Overcoming Porn Addiction
As the old year ends and a new one begins men and women around the world seize the opportunity to say goodbye to old, unhealthy habits and to begin new habits. It seems to be an almost universal drive. Anyone with the even a minimum of self-awareness is troubled by some habitual thoughts or behaviors and seeks a change for the better. For some, sexual behaviors like masturbation, fapping, extramarital sexual relationships, viewing pornography, etc. have become a destructive force. For such people, these behaviors must be stopped. And so they greet the the new year with a resolution to live life differently going forward. Read more about New Year’s Resolution: No Porn, No Fap
As a member of Sexaholics Anonymous, I need to be careful what I think and do. If my attitudes and thoughts aren’t “right,” ultimately my illness will show itself in my actions. I’ve learned in this program that my actions follow from my thoughts and attitudes. Read more about Sexual Sobriety: Thinking & Acting
How can I know if I am addicted to sex or pornography? Have you ever asked yourself this question? Have you ever debated with yourself or a partner if your sexual behavior is an abnormal and an addiction or if it’s just the normal behavior of any red-blooded man or woman? Perhaps your friends or the voices in society are telling you that it’s normal to do the things you do, but you have this nagging voice in the back of your mind saying something’s very wrong. How can you determine if you are an addict? How can you tell if your behavior is not normal? Read more about Am I Addicted to Sex or Pornography?
My life was being ruined by my uncontrollable use of pornography. I was viewing porn and masturbating in places and at times that, if caught, would mean the end of my employment and my marriage. I couldn’t stop. I had struggled to do so for the majority of my life. My behavior with pornography and Read more about My Drug: Pornography & Sex or Lust?[…]
Sex addiction is in the news again as is the question: is a addict responsible for his or her actions? If a sex addict does indeed have a disease, does that let him off the hook? Does the diagnosis of addiction excuse any addict of his or her harmful treatment of others? Sex Addiction: The Disease Model Read more about Sex Addiction & Responsibility[…]
Sex addiction can be devastating. But what does that devastation look like? With Hurricane Harvey in the news the last couple of weeks, a member quoted this from Alcoholics Anonymous: The alcoholic is like a tornado roaring his way through the lives of others. Hearts are broken. Sweet relationships are dead. Affections have been uprooted. Read more about Devastated by Sexual Addiction[…]
Pornography Addiction Recovery: Moving in Two Directions Recovery from an addiction like pornography or sex requires movement in two directions simultaneously: Movement away from use of the “drug” (in our case, pornography, sex, lust, or relationships) Movement toward healthy living Well, they are actually movements in the same direction. None of us addicts is ever Read more about Pornography Addiction Recovery[…]
I knew I had a problem but didn’t know what it was or what to do about it. Then one day I got shown the “cycle of addiction”: I do something I deeply regret; I feel pain and promise myself “never again”; at some point, however, the pain passes and I do the very thing Read more about Going Round In Circles[…]