months porn-free am I an addict

I Go Months Porn-Free: I Can’t Be An Addict

I was asked recently if I thought a person could be a sex addict, or porn addict if they can go months at a time without engaging in the behavior.  The reasoning goes something like this: An addict is someone who engages in a behavior or uses a substance uncontrollably all the time. Every day or at least every week. The urge is ever present. The giving in is a regular occurance. Therefore, if I can go for months without the behavior or drug, then I must not be an addict. I just have a habit. Of course, for the person asking him or herself this, it’s not merely an academic question. The answer has serious implications: If I’m an addict I’m in deep and I need serious help. If it’s just a habit, well, I can deal with that in private, or with just a bit more effort. But, is the “months porn-free” assumption valid? […]

Facing fear in sex and porn addiction recovery

Facing Fear In Sex Addiction Recovery

Fear plays a very active role in the destruction of the sex or porn addict. The prominent place of fear in an addicts life is often not evident when he or she first comes into Sexaholics Anonymous. That was certainly the case for me. Heck, I was only conscious of one problem when I first entered SA’s doors: masturbation and pornography. If I could only stop my sexual acting out, I told myself, the real, admirable me would be free to flourish. But I had misdiagnosed my problem. And my core problem included fear. And recovery from porn addiction has meant facing fear. […]

new attitude overcoming porn addiction

New Attitudes Overcoming Porn Addiction

“Because he lives inside his attitudes, the individual doesn’t see them; he sees only the physical activity and thinks he’s feeling guilty for that.” (White Book, page 40) Reading this reflection at a recent meeting, lead me to consider what my attitudes had been and how my changing attitudes brought about through the 12 Steps have enabled me to overcome my porn addiction. […]

New Year's Resolution: No Porn, No Fap

New Year’s Resolution: No Porn, No Fap

As the old year ends and a new one begins men and women around the world seize the opportunity to say goodbye to old, unhealthy habits and to begin new habits. It seems to be an almost universal drive. Anyone with the even a minimum of self-awareness is troubled by some habitual thoughts or behaviors and seeks a change for the better. For some, sexual behaviors like masturbation, fapping, extramarital sexual relationships, viewing pornography, etc. have become a destructive force. For such people, these behaviors must be stopped. And so they greet the the new year with a resolution to live life differently going forward.  […]

Am I Addicted to Sex or Porn?

Am I Addicted to Sex or Pornography?

How can I know if I am addicted to sex or pornography? Have you ever asked yourself this question? Have you ever debated with yourself or a partner if your sexual behavior is an abnormal and an addiction or if it’s just the normal behavior of any red-blooded man or woman? Perhaps your friends or the voices in society are telling you that it’s normal to do the things you do, but you have this nagging voice in the back of your mind saying something’s very wrong. How can you determine if you are an addict? How can you tell if your behavior is not normal? […]

Devastated by Sexual Addiction

Sex addiction can be devastating.  But what does that devastation look like? With Hurricane Harvey in the news the last couple of weeks, a member quoted this from Alcoholics Anonymous: The alcoholic is like a tornado roaring his way through the lives of others. Hearts are broken. Sweet relationships are dead. Affections have been uprooted. Read more about Devastated by Sexual Addiction[…]

Pornography Addiction Recovery

Pornography Addiction Recovery: Moving in Two Directions Recovery from an addiction like pornography or sex requires movement in two directions simultaneously: Movement away from use of the “drug” (in our case, pornography, sex, lust, or relationships) Movement toward healthy living Well, they are actually movements in the same direction. None of us addicts is ever Read more about Pornography Addiction Recovery[…]