<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[My Site]]></title><description><![CDATA[My Site]]></description><link>https://www.sastl.net/blog</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Fri, 12 Jun 2026 19:13:41 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://www.sastl.net/blog-feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[A Member Works Step 6]]></title><description><![CDATA[Using the suggestions from page 100 of Sexaholics Anonymous book Step Into Action, one member works Step 6 on one of his character defects: A. Character Defect: Workaholism B. What is my life like with this defect? (How has this defect affected my life? How does it affect my life with others? What does this behavior cost me and others? What payoffs or benefits do I think I am receiving? What feelings do I associate with this behavior in the moment or later in reflections? What patterns...]]></description><link>https://www.sastl.net/post/a-member-works-step-6</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a2c4df1ac42b101a9d49679</guid><pubDate>Thu, 07 Jul 2022 04:04:28 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>STL Web</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[What Are Your Drumsticks?]]></title><description><![CDATA[I was going to the Baltimore SA Convention several years ago. When I fly to a SA Convention, I get a window seat, because I don't want anybody to ask me the question, "Where are you going?" I don't want to lie, and I don't want to tell the truth.  So I am going to Baltimore. I have my window seat, and all is right with the world. I want to look out the window, and be left alone.  We take off, and just as we are about to get to the runway the Captain came over the intercom, " Ladies and...]]></description><link>https://www.sastl.net/post/what-are-your-drumsticks</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a2c4df1ac42b101a9d49670</guid><pubDate>Sat, 11 Apr 2020 15:54:19 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>STL Web</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[New Attitudes Overcoming Porn Addiction]]></title><description><![CDATA[“Because he lives inside his attitudes, the individual doesn’t see them; he sees only the physical activity and thinks he’s feeling guilty for that.” (White Book, page 40) Reading this reflection at a recent meeting, lead me to consider what my attitudes had been and how my changing attitudes brought about through the 12 Steps have enabled me to overcome my porn addiction.  It is true; I have a number of new attitudes. I want to share them. Sex is optional. I used to think that I had to have...]]></description><link>https://www.sastl.net/post/new-attitudes-overcoming-porn-addiction</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a2c4df1ac42b101a9d49677</guid><pubDate>Sat, 10 Feb 2018 20:48:26 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/79d88c_66ff2fa2eeb14bca8cba56a14b920479~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_675,h_277,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>STL Web</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Sexual Sobriety: Thinking &#38; Acting]]></title><description><![CDATA[As a member of Sexaholics Anonymous, I need to be careful what I think and do. If my attitudes and thoughts aren’t “right,” ultimately my illness will show itself in my actions. I’ve learned in this program that my actions follow from my thoughts and attitudes. Sexual Sobriety Includes Thinking &#38; Acting A part of my recovery then has been keeping my thoughts and attitudes in check, and a strategy that has helped me is known as “custody of the eyes.” For me, this involves – or should involve,...]]></description><link>https://www.sastl.net/post/sexual-sobriety-thinking-acting</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a2c4df1ac42b101a9d49678</guid><pubDate>Tue, 21 Nov 2017 02:06:33 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/79d88c_e25727d8ec744ed184a3d87a69881b63~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_101,h_300,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>STL Web</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Going Round In Circles]]></title><description><![CDATA[I knew I had a problem but didn’t know what it was or what to do about it. Then one day I got shown the “cycle of addiction”: I do something I deeply regret; I feel pain and promise myself “never again”; at some point, however, the pain passes and I do the very thing I promised I wouldn’t; I deeply regret it. The cycle continues. The pattern is set. I keep thinking I need to try harder, but nothing breaks the cycle. In fact, for years and years I didn’t even realize that there was a cycle...]]></description><link>https://www.sastl.net/post/going-round-in-circles</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a2c4df1ac42b101a9d49672</guid><pubDate>Sun, 16 Jul 2017 20:41:04 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/79d88c_06100a7c75bb4d7faa4ec0e564becd4c~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_422,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>STL Web</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Sober, Just For Today]]></title><description><![CDATA[Sobriety is a one-day-at-a-time endeavor.  Sometimes a one-hour or minute endeavor.  I make no promises for tomorrow or for the week or year.  No grand vows (how many countless vows have I made in my career as an addict?!).  Just a humble focus on today.  All I have to work with is here and now.    An important part of the Sexaholics Anonymous program is the fellowship.  It is very important to get a sponsor, someone who has walked your desired path before you who will now walk along side you....]]></description><link>https://www.sastl.net/post/sober-just-for-today</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a2c4df1ac42b101a9d49674</guid><pubDate>Wed, 17 May 2017 03:42:57 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/79d88c_83e7ce88983b462894ebd5f9f6d4dee5~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_561,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>STL Web</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The First Drink]]></title><description><![CDATA[In the SA 1st step, we admit powerlessness over lust (not a particular behavior), and the requirement for membership is a desire to "stop lusting and become sexually sober".  Both are in view with the understanding that lust lies beneath the acting out behaviors. I am like the alcoholic in many ways, but there is a significant difference in that I carry my distillery with me everywhere I go in the form of lust.  I can be technically, physically sober but really a long way from sobriety...]]></description><link>https://www.sastl.net/post/the-first-drink</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a2c4df1ac42b101a9d49676</guid><pubDate>Fri, 26 Feb 2016 20:13:06 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/79d88c_91f57e62bba7486caf69a5d330cbcc39~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_323,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>STL Web</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Progressive Victory Over Lust]]></title><description><![CDATA[In the Sexaholics Anonymous White Book (our equivalent of the AA Big Book) it says that "true sobriety includes progressive victory over lust."  (It's not just about sex eh?)  In an article in the December 1999 edition of the SA newsletter Essay, founder Roy K had an article entitled "A New Look at Lust Recovery".  In that he lists a number of "stages" of lust recovery, one of which is a discovery of sources of lust that were not initially apparent to the sex drunk:  Lust in the marriage bed,...]]></description><link>https://www.sastl.net/post/progressive-victory-over-lust</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a2c4df1ac42b101a9d49671</guid><pubDate>Fri, 01 May 2015 02:17:36 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/79d88c_302c62b4241f4047b575e8d79f403be8~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_307,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>STL Web</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[That Look]]></title><description><![CDATA[The scene: A house on Family Avenue, Everytown, U.S.A. It is 1:30 in the morning, and the attractive young wife, barefoot, in her nightgown, and holding her one-year-old girl in her arms, has awakened and is looking for her husband. As she approaches the den, she looks into the darkened room through the door, which is slightly ajar. Her husband is at the computer, utterly tranced-out on the monitor.    She is repulsed by the look on his face, the wild lascivious flare of his eyes devouring...]]></description><link>https://www.sastl.net/post/that-look</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a2c4df1ac42b101a9d49675</guid><pubDate>Fri, 15 Aug 2014 19:12:01 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/79d88c_a9f73cc57c484072a4e4673a5c244f94~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_390,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>STL Web</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[A View From The Pew]]></title><description><![CDATA[A man is sitting in church between his wife and young son. All three are holding hands. It feels good to be in the house of worship, together, with their child. They’ve left the cares of the marriage and the world outside and have entered a different world, a sanctuary: the hushed tones of the organ as the minister prays… the ritual order of service… the light coming through the stained-glass… the choir… listening to God’s very Word… A sanctuary from—In this man’s case, a hoped-for sanctuary...]]></description><link>https://www.sastl.net/post/a-view-from-the-pew</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a2c4df1ac42b101a9d49673</guid><pubDate>Fri, 15 Aug 2014 19:08:41 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/79d88c_ed2291b6f93f4fa6a7c3ab67efbac0ba~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_312,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>STL Web</dc:creator></item></channel></rss>